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In the Beginning comes Acceptance

I have always liked the Serenity prayer;

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”.

People who approach life with a courageous albeit quixotically optimistic point of view that everything in the world can be changed if one has the will, may deem it fatalistic ; I think it is very practical and commonsensical. An important part of being effective is in judging the pros and cons, the strengths and weaknesses of a situation, or of oneself, and then taking a realistic call on what can be achieved, and accepting what can’t or need not be changed.

For example many women flail against the inequities they face at work, in society and at home without taking the time out to genuinely figure out the quotient of fairness they are grappling with, or asking themselves which part of their lives would they truly want to change and which they should be happy living with.

The fact is that in its own way life is equally and democratically fair and unfair to everyone;  for example it is not especially fair to men who also have several burdens they carry and stereotypes they are boxed in, viz the burden of being the CWE (Chief Wage Earner) at home. Of never having the flexibility to throw up their hands to say I want to stay at home and take care of the kids. Or of having the freedom to give up the responsibility of running the household and chase their dreams.

Equally women also have certain advantages that they fail to recognize or willfully ignore; of being treated far more gently at work many times in comparison to their male counterparts. Of being given the ability and the opportunity  today to add on to their traditional roles of being care givers, by also becoming wage earners and hunters. While men are still struck in their one-dimensional roles! Every day one hears about women being lauded for achieving so much when they become engineers and pilots and astronauts. Whereas I don’t remember any one making a particular fuss around the men who also come home and take care of their children’s homework and food?

So the next time someone tells you that life is unfair especially to women, do reflect a minute on the advantages you too have. Why not just accept that both genders have been doled out the same servings of the good, the bad and the ugly? And enjoy being a woman instead of wishing to don the male avatar which so many women make the mistake of doing as you will see in this. …. Watch the video  from a discussion on Lady You’re Not a Man